Dating - what do you need to know!
[Abba] FATHER YHWH, your Creator wants only the best for us in every area of our lives. This includes our relationships with boy or girl friends. We should build Godly friendship for friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate. Realize that +- 25% of girls and over 15% of guys never date in high school.
The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.
Guard your heart
The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life.
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." (Proverbs 4:23)
You are known by the company you keep
We also tend to become like the company we keep. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating.
"Don't be misled: Bad company corrupts good character."
(1 Corinthians 15:33)
BELIEVERS should only date Like-minded and hearted Believers
Although it is fine for Believers to have non-believer friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow our Messiah with their lives.
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness"?
(2 Corinthians 6:14).
Is it really "Godly" love born of the Spirit?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 defines real love.
Ask yourself these questions:
Are you patient with each other?
Are you kind to each other?
Are you never envious of each other?
Do you never boast to or about each other?
Is your relationship characterized by humility?
Are you never rude to each other?
Are you not self-seeking?
Are you not easily angered with each other?
Do you keep no record of wrongs?
Are you truthful with each other?
Do you protect each other?
Do you trust each other?
Do you RESPECT each others bodies?
Are your relationship based on PURITY?
If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered "no" to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend and re-evaluate your relationship.
A LOVE BORN OF THE FLESH (LUST) WILL ALWAYS DIE!
A LOVE BORN OF THE SPIRIT OF FATHER YHWH WILL NEVER DIE!
How Far is Too Far?
Many students ask the question, "How far should I go on a date?" Here are some principles that will help you decide what is appropriate behavior on a date:
Does the situation I put myself in invite sexual immorality or help me avoid it?
1 Corinthians 6:18 says to "flee from sexual immorality."
We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness. Touching or fondling your partners private parts (breasts and genitals) is taking it TOO FAR, because your body is the temple of the Spirit and should be kept PURE and UNDEFILED! We must also remember that the Bible teaches us that we will REAP what we SOW . . .
So, if we go too far with our current boy or girlfriend, someone else is going too far with your future husband/wife. Is that what you really want?
What kind of reputation does my potential date have? When you accept a date you are essentially saying, "My values are the same as your values." That in itself can put you in a position you may regret later.
Remember 1 Corinthians 15:33, "Bad company corrupts good character."
Will there be any pressure to use alcohol or drugs?
Don't give up your values for a date. Am I attracting the wrong type of person? Make sure that the message you send with your actions doesn't attract people who will lead you to compromise your values. Am I aware that sin is first committed in the heart?
Matthew 5:28 says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Are you going to the right kind of place for a date? Many good intentions have been forgotten because the temptation and opportunity were too great. Am I doing anything to encourage sexual desire? Don't engage in any impure contact that is sexually motivated, such as petting.
If You Have Already Gone Too Far, Why do you have to Stop now?
Abbah FATHER is forgiving
1 John 1:9 tells us that our FATHER is faithful and just to forgive our sins if we confess them.
You can start fresh with Abbah Father anytime you want to.
Abbah FATHER is set-apart
His word tells us that sexual sin is wrong, and He knows what is best.
Abbah FATHER is caring
He knows that going too far before marriage tends to break up couples and leads to less happy marriages. He knows that most guys do not want to marry a girl who has been intimate with someone else.
Did you know that CONDOMS are NOT really SAFE?
Did you know that when you have sex with someone, you actually have sex with everyone that has ever slept with them before you?
Did you know that evil spirits can be transferred to you whilst having sex -- for example: if you sleep with someone that is addicted to drugs, that spirit of addiction (evil spirit) in them will transfer to you and will take control of your body.
In Teachers training, we take a condom, blow it up slightly, put a lubricant on it, rub it gently with the finger and within 30 seconds 6 out of every 10 condoms will burst.
Are you willing to take that chance?
The BIBLE teaches us ABSTINENCE -- NO SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE!
REMEMBER that you will REAP what you SOW. Whilst you are sleeping with someone else's future wife/husband, someone else is sleeping with YOUR wife/husband!
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We will WAIT for sex until we get married !
We want to enjoy the fullness of intimacy that Abbah Father ordained for us and will not allow the devil to pervert it and come and steal from us, causing: guilt, shame, emotional trauma, possible rape or date-rape, unwanted pregnancy, or maybe even Aids and STD'S (sexually transmitted diseases).
YOUR BODY . . .
BELONGS to your heavenly FATHER and YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE!
YOUR PATIENCE AND SELF-CONTROL WILL BE . . .
YOU DON'T WANT TO PRESENT YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE WITH LEFT-OVERS, BUT WITH THE FIRST (BEST) PORTION of YOUR BODY.
1Corinthians 6:9-10 (GNB)
Surely you know that the WICKED will NOT possess YHWH'S (Our heavenly Father's REAL NAME) Kingdom. Do not fool yourselves; people who are IMMORAL or who WORSHIP IDOLS or are ADULTERERS or HOMOSEXUAL perverts or who STEAL or are GREEDY or are DRUNKARDS or who SLANDER others or are thieves -- none of these will possess YHWH'S Kingdom.
It is possible to ABSTAIN from sex before marriage -- there are many testimonies of men and women who were willing to wait for sex unti they got married. They will encourage you to also wait and enjoy safe sex within the protection of the covenant of marriage, approved by Abbah Father and blessed by Him!